When Ryan and I first got married a podcast that I had been listening to had really struck a chord for me in our marriage. The podcast that day was centered around being intentional in your marriage, relationship & all that that you do in life. Ryan and I got married in mid November so to say our first month of marriage was a little crazy is a complete and utter understatement.
Between coming home from our honeymoon and going straight into the Christmas season to trying to get my life organized because I had just moved in to a new home made life a little, well unconventional…
Our first married Christmas was absolutely amazing, but by the time it hit 5 pm we were completely running on energy drinks with still two more Christmas parties to go to that night. It was absolute madness!
The following days while listening to my daily podcasts consisting of The Real Life Podcast by The Bethkes' and Behind the Scenes by The Roloffs' I’m not even really sure which podcast it was but one of them discussed "intentionality". I soon realized that in order for Ryan’s and I marriage to thrive we needed to be intentional with each other even if that meant saying no to small or big events.
Don’t get me wrong I know life gets busy and messy sometimes, but you have to make each other your top priority (under your relationship with God of course) if you want to grow as one.
That doesn’t mean treating time with your spouse as a chore or a weekly check box on your list. Intentionality with one another only works if you are all in it with each other 200%.
You can’t go at it 50/50. You have to go at it 100/100 because on days when I am just completely exhausted both physically and emotionally, those are the days where Ryan is going to have to carry our marriage harder than other days. That’s not to say to completely lean on your partner for being the one who constantly tries to be intentional in the marriage; but yet it means that even on the hard/busy days we are both choosing to be intentional with our marriage.
I’m definitely not the first person to say life is so precious and your time spent on earth is numbered, but when I think about it in the sense of my marriage I can’t even imagine a life without Ryan by my side.
Ephesians 5:15-17 says, “ Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”
I challenge you today whether you are dating, engaged or married that you will take a moment to imagine your life if you spent it with a little more intentionality in your relationship. Would it grow the two of you closer as one? Intentionality is a hard pill to swallow, but oh girl, it is can be so life changing your relationship.
Meet Brittnie & Ryan (pictured)
Brittnie currently works in Atlanta as a paralegal for a title and escrow company. She graduated with a Paralegal Studies degree from Liberty University Online in 2017. She has a passion for writing and using it to help others. She has a love for all things Fall and Christmas, not to mention her love of reading! Her favorite book is To Kill a Mockingbird. Her and Ryan got married in November 2018.